Tuesday, January 25, 2011


I think I've been watching too many movies in the era where men are actual gentlemen and women were virtuous. Time has changed us. Some of our values have changed.  Don't get me wrong...there are many a gentlemen still in our day. I see men opening doors and openly adore their lady where there is no question he loves her. And there are women and men for that matter who wait to be married before pursuing intimacy.  Things aren't the way they were then and sometimes that's good and yet there is something to be learned by watching theses kind of movies, keeping mind that these are just movies. They don't always represent the real ideas a society holds.

But, it gets me to thinking about today's society and how things have changed. Today, women have their independence, thanks to a lot of hard working women from our history, however, some women have gotten out of the habit of not allowing a man be a gentlemen, therefore, they have gotten out of habit of being one. I think it's our responsibility to fix that. We should allow men to open doors, get up when a women needs a seat, to pull a seat out for her when at a restaurant or other public outing. We need to be teaching our young sons this too. I know, I'm one who goes ahead and opens the door myself because it saves the trouble or time. Sometimes, husbands might pull the car out so you can get in easier, but, shouldn't we allow them to get out and open our door for us too.  At home, we can allow our young sons to let their sisters fix their plate of food first, to stand up and make sure others are treating their sisters or mom with respect. Some say that chivalry is dead, but I'm a voice that would like to bring it back.

What is chivalry? 
  1. The ethical code of the knight  prevalent in Medieval Europe, having such primary virtues as mercy towards the poor and oppressed, humility, honor, sacrifice, fear of God, faithfulness, courage and utmost graciousness and courtesy to ladies.
  2. Courteous behavior, especially that of men towards women.
I think chivalry is a great trait to have. I'm going to try harder to be more lady like and remember my own manners and code of behavior as I'm teaching the men in my life they are allowed to be a gentleman. Or maybe I'm living in an old-fashioned fantasy world. Hmmm. Lesson # 1- try

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